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I think it’s better to not be in a relationship just for the sake of being in one because you know your worth and what you’re worthy of.

I’ve skimmed through a few blogs in the last few minutes, and I’ve realised how important self-respect is. To me, it’s important to find successes in different parts of your life because that is what I believe will make you ultimately happy.

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Be Fierce like Beyonce

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Imagine you go on your day doing your normal routine whether it be work, uni, or just something to pass time. By chance you come across a familiar face in a sea of nameless faces. The world stops for about a second. It’s someone who once used to mean a lot to you. You stare at their features and remind yourself of that very first time you ‘fell’. It was a time that made you feel happy. For once, you didnt have to try so hard to feel happy. I think it’s overrated if I call it love, so I’ll just use the term bliss. Days pass, weeks turn into months, and eventually that moment passes. It becomes nothing but remnants of the past.

Face to face, you stare into their eyes, realising you no longer feel the same way; that your now different in some way you can’t explain. No longer young and naive. You’re stronger. More of a women. More beautiful than before, and fierce like Beyonce. No longer afraid of being alone. No longer believing in the fairytale that one day some guy with the alias, Prince Charming, will sweep you off your feet. But rather you’ve gained a sense of what it feels like to be whole as a person. That is, to find the true meaning of what it’s like to genuinely feel happy single. With a smile, you realise that you’re in a better place now. I believe that being single at 21 is not a bad thing. You can do what you want when you want. You can figure out who you want to be without having to depend on someone else. I’ve grown up a lot in the duration of a year and a bit. I’ve built character.

I’ve always been the girl who rarely dates. That friend you have who gives the best relationship advice, but still remains single. Even though “suitors” (as my mum likes to say) have come into the picture, most of the time I feel like they are just not the right fit. Then one day, my world got turned upside down. I met someone. All these feelings I never thought I had suddenly came out. I was definitely high on infatuation. I remember telling myself, “It’s finally my turn. I’ve waited so long.” But with a blink of an eye, I fell from cloud 9. It wasn’t graceful. I think when you feel so strongly about someone and suddenly it ends, you leave a piece of yourself with them. That piece allows you find a new piece that fills the hole that was created, and soon enough after nights of endless tears, you gradually transform out of your cocoon into a beautiful butterfly. A butterfly that is not afraid to spread their wings and fly high. You feel new again. One thing I’ve learnt is that the people who give you the most pain, are also the ones who teach you the largest life lessons. Yesterday, I accidentally bumped into that ‘someone’. Through a haiku, I will share with you how I felt in that unexpected moment:

Accidentally we meet again

That face I once adored
Reminds me of the old me
Oh how I’ve changed

Yours truly, from a 21-year-old girl who loves to sing Girl on Fire by Alicia Keys.

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Why do leaves change colour in Fall?

I’m a 21-year-old uni student who likes long walks on the beach, red velvet cake and taking photographs…sounds like something I’d write on an online dating site as part of my profile. The truth is being single at 21 is not a bad thing. However being a single 20-something in 2013 Australia is not reinforced positively, at least not positively enough. Today, I realised that there are 8 days left till another season begins – Winter. It’s a pity because there’s just something about Autumn that makes me want to pile up different shades of red, orange and gold giant leaves and jump into it all carefree. One day I’ll be doing just that in Central Park, New York City. It’s on my bucket list.

We’ve all got bad habits we’d like to get rid of, but we’ve just become so accustomed to them that we just never change our ways. I’ll admit at the back of my mind there is this ideal notion of love. Every aspect of our lives is influenced by both our conscious mind, which we are constantly aware of, and the other being our unconscious mind, which remains ‘hidden’ from us. It contains our deepest desires and aspirations. It’s like a continuous wave of dreams that we keep close to our hearts. They way we experience the world through our perception, attitude and behaviour is a direct reflection of what our unconscious mind is telling us. In saying that, soon enough the season will change and along with that will come a change in the way I think. You only get out of life what you put in. Therefore, you should make every day count. Get up in the morning and look forward to something. I’ve always fallen in the trap of making up excuses for the things I’ve always wanted to try. By doing that not only do I think about that one thing I want even more, but it creates this unpleasant feeling inside me like I’ve failed myself. That’s why I took up canoeing recently. I love the water. I love adventure. What have I got to lose I told myself. Just do it” (yolo mantra #1). You know inside what’s right for you, and in life you need to trust yourself enough to make the right decision. Otherwise, you’ll just end up like all those other people in the world who missed out on opportunities that could have opened doors for them because they simply gave up to soon. Don’t be afraid to fail. Be afraid not to try.

I see this change in season as way for me to change my mindset about love. A relationship is wonderful if it’s something you have, but it’s not necessary. Love is not measured by the number of relationships you have. I’m young, full of spirit and still ask my mum where my clothes are when I can’t find them in my closet. Therefore, I believe right now, at this very stage of my life, the world is my oyster. I’m free to pursue the things I’ve always wanted to do. I have the opportunity to create the person I want to be – a strong independent woman who lives life to the fullest.

The most important relationship in your life is the relationship you have with yourself. Because no matter what happens, you will always be with yourself. – Diane Von Furstenberg

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