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“Do you fall in love often? Yes often. With a view, with a book, with a dog, a cat, with numbers, with friends, with complete strangers, with nothing at all.” — Jeanette Winterson (Gut Symmetries)

These days people are fixated with falling in love, but really it is the idea of falling in love that they are obsessed with. Words are powerful. If you learn to read between the lines, you’re not only encapsulated by the meaning within those words, but you also realise that they offer you new perspective. I love this quote because today I have realised that falling in love does not necessarily mean finding Mr. Right/’The One’/Tuxedo Mask/your ‘other half’ or whatever you wish to call them. Instead, falling in love, for me at least, means finding what it is your heart is searching for through the beauty hidden in this crazy world of ours. In my 21 years of existence, I have realised that I have fallen in love countless times, with not only people, but pets I’ve had through the years, beautifully crafted poetry, cute things, weird things, and most recently, myself.

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Life is a broken road that leads you to exactly where you should be

The road of life twists and turns and no two directions are ever the same. Yet our lessons come from the journey, not the destination. – Don Williams, Jr.

Sometimes, we focus too much on where we want to be, rather than where we are at present. Don’t forget to smell the roses along the way and enjoy the ride. Otherwise, you’ll just wake up one day and realise where has all my time gone? Have I wasted my life? Stay happy and remember, life is a long road. It’s full of U-turns, stops, give ways, ditches and speed signs that make you go slower and others that allow you to speed up. Learn to enjoy the ride.

Learn to love yourself first

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Throw away those glass slippers because running bare foot is more fun. This poster encapsulates my day. One of the biggest lessons I’ve learnt in life is to always try to maintain balance. For me that involves a lot of things: part-time job/life/family (+ dog)/uni/get-togethers with friends/volunteering. Exercise is that one thing that always makes me feel like I’m on top of the world. It’s because even though things feel like they are crashing down on me, exercise reinforces that I’m making progress, at least in one aspect of my life. And of course, I love the endorphin release. Who doesn’t? I’m on the road to reaching my goal weight. It’s gonna take some time, but I know I’ll get there, and that’s the most important thing. Today I went back to the gym after a long time of not going. I wouldn’t say that long, but long enough for me to feel the burn quicker than usual. I pretty much thought I could stop everything in my life, and just study, study, study. That way, I’d get better marks in my exams. Lesson learnt: you need a balance, or you’ll just burn yourself out. And that’s what happened, it’s all I thought about, and when the time came for the exam, I just became so fearful of failing that my nerves took over. It was the first time in my life I had a panic attack. It was intense. I’m glad I’ve been given a second chance to show ’em what I’ve got, so in 2 weeks I shall be sitting a supplementary exam. I’ll be prepared though and I know I’ll pass.

Anyway, back to my gym sesh, for those who do classes at the gym, I did Body Pump and Body Attack. Body Pump is awesome for muscle toning and strength. Body Attack is a full-on cardio workout, thats seems like bursts of energy accompanied with adrenaline-stimulating music. The last time I  did Body Attack was probably 2 years ago. It wasn’t a pleasant experience. I was an unco noob lost in a room full of women who knew their ‘thang’. I recall the instructor didn’t bother slowing down, and I told myself after, this is not for me. I’m glad I tried it out again though because it changed my perception about it. I even went to the front line and said to myself, “why not?” I managed to keep up with those in the front line, even though my ‘moves like Jagger’ weren’t as smooth as theres. All in all, I feel proud of myself for giving it a try again. That goes to say, don’t let one bad experience, keep you from trying it again.

For all those feminists out there, how cool is this poster? In this day and age, people are obsessed about the concept of falling in love. I’ve gone to the extent of removing all emotional breakup slash ‘I’m-just-so-in-love’ songs from my iPhone. I don’t need it. Reality check – love does not ‘cure’ anything. The most important relationship you can have is the one you have with yourself. You can choose to take control of your own life. You don’t need someone to reinforce that you are worthy of love because quite frankly, you can love yourself and that can be enough. If your being is happy, then that resonates through your thoughts. And as we know, the way you think (i.e. your mindset) influences your behaviour.

Yours truly, from a 21-year-old girl who is learning to take control of her life again.

Don't give up

Sometimes life has a way of putting you down, but it’s up to you if you want to get up. So for all those who need a small dose of inspiration, here are a few words to inspire you to not give up.

Life won’t wait for you

It’s just one of those days when you want to put pen to paper and pour your sorrows away. I like to think of my blog as something that gives me inspiration and hope that there are better days ahead when I’m feeling down. Throughout my life I have kept journals. As I got older, I told myself I wanted to write only about happy moments because quite frankly I didn’t want to read journal entries years down the track and think, was I really that lonely and sad as a teenager? But you know what, life is full of ups and downs. That’s why I’m writing my first vulnerable post on my blog.

I think from time to time, we all like to reminisce about the good ol’ days. However, time has a way of tainting those memories by being subjective. Our mind wants to remember just the good stuff, so we don’t have to feel the pain that we once endured through challenging experiences and obstacles. Relationships – family, friends, co-workers. They all make their mark on you. I once had a friendship with a guy. We were the best of friends. We did everything together. I think for the longest time he had a secret crush on me, but I friend-zoned him and took him for granted. As that song by Counting Crows goes, “you don’t know what you’ve got til its gone” (Big Yellow Taxi). And that’s exactly what happened, I missed him as soon as he went away. The difficult thing is something inside of me doesn’t want to let go of those memories, but I know that things will never be the same because life has changed the both of us in so many ways. We are on different walks of life. I know you can say all those cliche tag lines like “if it’s meant to be, it’s meant to be’ or “God will find a way”. I’m not sure how to feel or what to say, but I guess I just need to let it be. For those days are long gone. Most people refer to me as a ‘pocket full of sunshine’, their ‘go-to gal’, that person who just always seems to be happy when they walk into a room. But just like anyone else I have my fair share of insecurities, doubts, thoughts that I just can’t get out of my head, and desires that just feel so far away. I think what I’m trying to say is that, inside my heart, there’s some kind of longing like a piece of a puzzle that needs to be found. I’m wise enough to know now, that it’s up to me to fill that whole and no one else can fill the void for me. It’s up to me. Just like anything else worthwhile in life, it takes a process of focus, determination and hard work to get the results you want. So I’m here writing to tell myself, “Good luck and congratulations to taking your first step to finding happiness again”. Let this new chapter in your life begin.

Yours truly, from a 21-year-old girl who has realised that, you are the one who decides whether you stay unhappy, or find ways to find happiness.

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Why do leaves change colour in Fall?

I’m a 21-year-old uni student who likes long walks on the beach, red velvet cake and taking photographs…sounds like something I’d write on an online dating site as part of my profile. The truth is being single at 21 is not a bad thing. However being a single 20-something in 2013 Australia is not reinforced positively, at least not positively enough. Today, I realised that there are 8 days left till another season begins – Winter. It’s a pity because there’s just something about Autumn that makes me want to pile up different shades of red, orange and gold giant leaves and jump into it all carefree. One day I’ll be doing just that in Central Park, New York City. It’s on my bucket list.

We’ve all got bad habits we’d like to get rid of, but we’ve just become so accustomed to them that we just never change our ways. I’ll admit at the back of my mind there is this ideal notion of love. Every aspect of our lives is influenced by both our conscious mind, which we are constantly aware of, and the other being our unconscious mind, which remains ‘hidden’ from us. It contains our deepest desires and aspirations. It’s like a continuous wave of dreams that we keep close to our hearts. They way we experience the world through our perception, attitude and behaviour is a direct reflection of what our unconscious mind is telling us. In saying that, soon enough the season will change and along with that will come a change in the way I think. You only get out of life what you put in. Therefore, you should make every day count. Get up in the morning and look forward to something. I’ve always fallen in the trap of making up excuses for the things I’ve always wanted to try. By doing that not only do I think about that one thing I want even more, but it creates this unpleasant feeling inside me like I’ve failed myself. That’s why I took up canoeing recently. I love the water. I love adventure. What have I got to lose I told myself. Just do it” (yolo mantra #1). You know inside what’s right for you, and in life you need to trust yourself enough to make the right decision. Otherwise, you’ll just end up like all those other people in the world who missed out on opportunities that could have opened doors for them because they simply gave up to soon. Don’t be afraid to fail. Be afraid not to try.

I see this change in season as way for me to change my mindset about love. A relationship is wonderful if it’s something you have, but it’s not necessary. Love is not measured by the number of relationships you have. I’m young, full of spirit and still ask my mum where my clothes are when I can’t find them in my closet. Therefore, I believe right now, at this very stage of my life, the world is my oyster. I’m free to pursue the things I’ve always wanted to do. I have the opportunity to create the person I want to be – a strong independent woman who lives life to the fullest.

The most important relationship in your life is the relationship you have with yourself. Because no matter what happens, you will always be with yourself. – Diane Von Furstenberg

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