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“Do you fall in love often? Yes often. With a view, with a book, with a dog, a cat, with numbers, with friends, with complete strangers, with nothing at all.” — Jeanette Winterson (Gut Symmetries)

These days people are fixated with falling in love, but really it is the idea of falling in love that they are obsessed with. Words are powerful. If you learn to read between the lines, you’re not only encapsulated by the meaning within those words, but you also realise that they offer you new perspective. I love this quote because today I have realised that falling in love does not necessarily mean finding Mr. Right/’The One’/Tuxedo Mask/your ‘other half’ or whatever you wish to call them. Instead, falling in love, for me at least, means finding what it is your heart is searching for through the beauty hidden in this crazy world of ours. In my 21 years of existence, I have realised that I have fallen in love countless times, with not only people, but pets I’ve had through the years, beautifully crafted poetry, cute things, weird things, and most recently, myself.

Mindset is your most powerful tool

Happiness and success begins with change. Change that you create for yourself. Don’t wait around, hoping that the solution to your problem will come eventually. You’ll just get more frustrated and unhappy, I can assure you. Today, I did Krav Maga for the first time. It’s a type of tactical combat fighting. What I learnt was that, as humans, we have a tendency to get carried away by intense emotions such as anxiety, anger and frustration. We can not control our emotions, but what we can control is what we choose to focus on. I’ve realised that I have a tendency to focus on negative emotions. Therefore, today marks the day that I conquer my emotions and focus on goals that I set myself. In particular, I have a supplementary exam coming up, so I shall choose to focus on getting through the exam by focusing on what I know, writing that down, and visualising myself passing this subject.

So to all you out there, take that first step because new solutions to that ‘thing’ stressing you out (you know the one in the back of your head) will only come your way when you change your mindset.

The battle of your mind will be your biggest opponent.

Time to get back on track with losing weight the healthy way.

Fall seven times, stand up eight

I’m sitting here in my study room, my lectures notes, textbooks, highlighters and pens scattered on my desk. I think it’s human nature to lack motivation at times. As they say, life is a rollercoaster – filled with ups and downs. Or I could use the metaphor that makes everyone laugh, that is, life is like a rock – it’s hard. I really want to do well in my final exams this semester. I want to prove to myself, that I’m no quitter. It doesn’t matter how many times you fall down, just as long as you get up each time. Fall seven times, stand up eight times.

These 2 subjects I have final exams for are no ordinary subjects. They are subjects that I failed. It took me a long time to comprehend and accept that I failed not one, but two subjects. Sometimes, I would tell people, “I failed a subject”, ignoring to use the plural, ‘subjects’. Through time, I have learnt to accept that, “it’s ok”. Uni students have their fair share of failed subjects. Some just brush it off, without a care. While, others reflect on why they failed and learn how to conquer their weaknesses. I’d like to think I’m the later. For the longest time, I kept going back to that moment when I checked my final marks for that semester. It wasn’t a pleasant experience. In that moment, I think I had what you call a premature ventricular contraction, meaning my heart stopped for a moment. Ok, so I might be exaggerating just a little, but it felt like I had stopped breathing. My stomach dropped, and I felt like I was at my lowest. The word ‘fail’, followed by ‘fail’ again, just stuck to me. It was all I could think about for a while.

I used to dwell on the past a lot – you know those ‘should’ve, could’ve, would’ve’ thoughts that linger in your mind. Those thoughts are a waste of time. “Don’t think too much,” I tell myself. I’m learning how to use those past experiences as motivators. For tomorrow is a new day. Look ahead. Keep trying, and most importantly, never give up.

To keep my sanity in the midst of exam preparation, I exercise. I managed to run 5 km in 47 min this evening, and each step I took made me feel stronger, more in control of my life. The best feeling is after an intense workout. It’s because I know I didn’t give up half way through the session, despite feeling like it was ‘death’. And secondly because I know I’m making progress to becoming a healthier me. While, I’m not at my ideal weight, I feel like all the hard work is paying off gradually because others have been telling me, “You look healthier” and “Have you lost weight?” It keeps me going! One day I know I’ll feel comfortable in my own skin when I’m trying on clothes whilst out shopping. I’ll feel confident in my own body. I can just picture the moment when I check the tag of a piece of clothing, and it’s in my ideal size. I’ll take it off the rack with a great big smile, knowing that I worked hard to get to that size. Success doesn’t happen over night. It’s a process.

As my favourite quote goes,
It is a rough road that leads to the heights of greatness – Seneca.

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