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Just let yourself be

Stop leaving, and you will arrive.

Stop searching, and you will see.

Stop running away, and you will be found.

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The battle of your mind will be your biggest opponent.

Time to get back on track with losing weight the healthy way.

Don't give up

Sometimes life has a way of putting you down, but it’s up to you if you want to get up. So for all those who need a small dose of inspiration, here are a few words to inspire you to not give up.

Fall seven times, stand up eight

I’m sitting here in my study room, my lectures notes, textbooks, highlighters and pens scattered on my desk. I think it’s human nature to lack motivation at times. As they say, life is a rollercoaster – filled with ups and downs. Or I could use the metaphor that makes everyone laugh, that is, life is like a rock – it’s hard. I really want to do well in my final exams this semester. I want to prove to myself, that I’m no quitter. It doesn’t matter how many times you fall down, just as long as you get up each time. Fall seven times, stand up eight times.

These 2 subjects I have final exams for are no ordinary subjects. They are subjects that I failed. It took me a long time to comprehend and accept that I failed not one, but two subjects. Sometimes, I would tell people, “I failed a subject”, ignoring to use the plural, ‘subjects’. Through time, I have learnt to accept that, “it’s ok”. Uni students have their fair share of failed subjects. Some just brush it off, without a care. While, others reflect on why they failed and learn how to conquer their weaknesses. I’d like to think I’m the later. For the longest time, I kept going back to that moment when I checked my final marks for that semester. It wasn’t a pleasant experience. In that moment, I think I had what you call a premature ventricular contraction, meaning my heart stopped for a moment. Ok, so I might be exaggerating just a little, but it felt like I had stopped breathing. My stomach dropped, and I felt like I was at my lowest. The word ‘fail’, followed by ‘fail’ again, just stuck to me. It was all I could think about for a while.

I used to dwell on the past a lot – you know those ‘should’ve, could’ve, would’ve’ thoughts that linger in your mind. Those thoughts are a waste of time. “Don’t think too much,” I tell myself. I’m learning how to use those past experiences as motivators. For tomorrow is a new day. Look ahead. Keep trying, and most importantly, never give up.

To keep my sanity in the midst of exam preparation, I exercise. I managed to run 5 km in 47 min this evening, and each step I took made me feel stronger, more in control of my life. The best feeling is after an intense workout. It’s because I know I didn’t give up half way through the session, despite feeling like it was ‘death’. And secondly because I know I’m making progress to becoming a healthier me. While, I’m not at my ideal weight, I feel like all the hard work is paying off gradually because others have been telling me, “You look healthier” and “Have you lost weight?” It keeps me going! One day I know I’ll feel comfortable in my own skin when I’m trying on clothes whilst out shopping. I’ll feel confident in my own body. I can just picture the moment when I check the tag of a piece of clothing, and it’s in my ideal size. I’ll take it off the rack with a great big smile, knowing that I worked hard to get to that size. Success doesn’t happen over night. It’s a process.

As my favourite quote goes,
It is a rough road that leads to the heights of greatness – Seneca.

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Why do leaves change colour in Fall?

I’m a 21-year-old uni student who likes long walks on the beach, red velvet cake and taking photographs…sounds like something I’d write on an online dating site as part of my profile. The truth is being single at 21 is not a bad thing. However being a single 20-something in 2013 Australia is not reinforced positively, at least not positively enough. Today, I realised that there are 8 days left till another season begins – Winter. It’s a pity because there’s just something about Autumn that makes me want to pile up different shades of red, orange and gold giant leaves and jump into it all carefree. One day I’ll be doing just that in Central Park, New York City. It’s on my bucket list.

We’ve all got bad habits we’d like to get rid of, but we’ve just become so accustomed to them that we just never change our ways. I’ll admit at the back of my mind there is this ideal notion of love. Every aspect of our lives is influenced by both our conscious mind, which we are constantly aware of, and the other being our unconscious mind, which remains ‘hidden’ from us. It contains our deepest desires and aspirations. It’s like a continuous wave of dreams that we keep close to our hearts. They way we experience the world through our perception, attitude and behaviour is a direct reflection of what our unconscious mind is telling us. In saying that, soon enough the season will change and along with that will come a change in the way I think. You only get out of life what you put in. Therefore, you should make every day count. Get up in the morning and look forward to something. I’ve always fallen in the trap of making up excuses for the things I’ve always wanted to try. By doing that not only do I think about that one thing I want even more, but it creates this unpleasant feeling inside me like I’ve failed myself. That’s why I took up canoeing recently. I love the water. I love adventure. What have I got to lose I told myself. Just do it” (yolo mantra #1). You know inside what’s right for you, and in life you need to trust yourself enough to make the right decision. Otherwise, you’ll just end up like all those other people in the world who missed out on opportunities that could have opened doors for them because they simply gave up to soon. Don’t be afraid to fail. Be afraid not to try.

I see this change in season as way for me to change my mindset about love. A relationship is wonderful if it’s something you have, but it’s not necessary. Love is not measured by the number of relationships you have. I’m young, full of spirit and still ask my mum where my clothes are when I can’t find them in my closet. Therefore, I believe right now, at this very stage of my life, the world is my oyster. I’m free to pursue the things I’ve always wanted to do. I have the opportunity to create the person I want to be – a strong independent woman who lives life to the fullest.

The most important relationship in your life is the relationship you have with yourself. Because no matter what happens, you will always be with yourself. – Diane Von Furstenberg

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