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Mindset is your most powerful tool

Happiness and success begins with change. Change that you create for yourself. Don’t wait around, hoping that the solution to your problem will come eventually. You’ll just get more frustrated and unhappy, I can assure you. Today, I did Krav Maga for the first time. It’s a type of tactical combat fighting. What I learnt was that, as humans, we have a tendency to get carried away by intense emotions such as anxiety, anger and frustration. We can not control our emotions, but what we can control is what we choose to focus on. I’ve realised that I have a tendency to focus on negative emotions. Therefore, today marks the day that I conquer my emotions and focus on goals that I set myself. In particular, I have a supplementary exam coming up, so I shall choose to focus on getting through the exam by focusing on what I know, writing that down, and visualising myself passing this subject.

So to all you out there, take that first step because new solutions to that ‘thing’ stressing you out (you know the one in the back of your head) will only come your way when you change your mindset.

A healthier me

At the beginning of the year, I told myself “2013 is my year!” I’m 21-years-old. This is a milestone in my life, and I want to remember it with bright colours and a smile. I want to remember it as one of the best years of my life. This year and for all the years of my life, I will be the best version of myself. I’m working towards a healthier, more fit, beautiful and radiant me.

I’ve never ran in a marathon. I used to be like the majority of the crowd, telling myself I’d rather spend my time doing other things, which usually turns into settling on taking in the persona of a couch potato. In a few months, I’ll be running in The Color Run™. This is a one of a kind experience that is less about speed and more about enjoying a colour crazy day with like-minded amazing people I like to call my friends. I’m pumped! This is a wonderful first step.

Yesterday, I took my first step training for this marathon. According to my Up band by Jawbone, which tracks my steps, I managed to run 4.68 km in 37 min! I felt really good after that run because it was such a struggle to get me in my running shoes and out the door in the first place. As usual, my mind has quite a crazy personality. It always over-analyses every thing! It leaves me in a stir a lot of the time, but I’m working on managing my thought forms and processes for the better. It’s important to channel out those repetitive unnecessary and unwanted thoughts that linger in the back of your mind. They only leave you obsessing over ‘nothing’, rather than focusing in on the present, on reality, which is what’s important. Be aware that these thoughts do not add value to your life, rather they instil fear of achieving greatness and prevent you from becoming the best version of yoursef. As the saying goes, you are your worst critic. My internal thoughts went something like this, “Gotta study. Should be studying. It’s getting dark outside. Maybe I won’t…no, just go! Just do it.”

In life, you just have to keep going. When my brain goes back to it’s default setting of over-analysing, I command my brain to stop by telling myself, “Just do it!” I’m improving with time. It’s ok to have a few slip ups. It’s always important to reset your expectations and remind yourself that you’re only human. Mistakes will happen, but what’s important is that you’ve learnt from those mistakes and that you get up, rising higher than you did before. Soar. Don’t be afraid. I hope today I’ve at least inspired one person in the blogging world to take on their fears full throttle. Let me know if that’s you! I’d love to hear from you.

Here’s a photo I took of my running trail with words I keep core to my soul:

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Yours truly, from a 21-year-old girl who believes that there’s hope for all of us. No one else will believe in you, unless you believe in yourself first.

Why do leaves change colour in Fall?

I’m a 21-year-old uni student who likes long walks on the beach, red velvet cake and taking photographs…sounds like something I’d write on an online dating site as part of my profile. The truth is being single at 21 is not a bad thing. However being a single 20-something in 2013 Australia is not reinforced positively, at least not positively enough. Today, I realised that there are 8 days left till another season begins – Winter. It’s a pity because there’s just something about Autumn that makes me want to pile up different shades of red, orange and gold giant leaves and jump into it all carefree. One day I’ll be doing just that in Central Park, New York City. It’s on my bucket list.

We’ve all got bad habits we’d like to get rid of, but we’ve just become so accustomed to them that we just never change our ways. I’ll admit at the back of my mind there is this ideal notion of love. Every aspect of our lives is influenced by both our conscious mind, which we are constantly aware of, and the other being our unconscious mind, which remains ‘hidden’ from us. It contains our deepest desires and aspirations. It’s like a continuous wave of dreams that we keep close to our hearts. They way we experience the world through our perception, attitude and behaviour is a direct reflection of what our unconscious mind is telling us. In saying that, soon enough the season will change and along with that will come a change in the way I think. You only get out of life what you put in. Therefore, you should make every day count. Get up in the morning and look forward to something. I’ve always fallen in the trap of making up excuses for the things I’ve always wanted to try. By doing that not only do I think about that one thing I want even more, but it creates this unpleasant feeling inside me like I’ve failed myself. That’s why I took up canoeing recently. I love the water. I love adventure. What have I got to lose I told myself. Just do it” (yolo mantra #1). You know inside what’s right for you, and in life you need to trust yourself enough to make the right decision. Otherwise, you’ll just end up like all those other people in the world who missed out on opportunities that could have opened doors for them because they simply gave up to soon. Don’t be afraid to fail. Be afraid not to try.

I see this change in season as way for me to change my mindset about love. A relationship is wonderful if it’s something you have, but it’s not necessary. Love is not measured by the number of relationships you have. I’m young, full of spirit and still ask my mum where my clothes are when I can’t find them in my closet. Therefore, I believe right now, at this very stage of my life, the world is my oyster. I’m free to pursue the things I’ve always wanted to do. I have the opportunity to create the person I want to be – a strong independent woman who lives life to the fullest.

The most important relationship in your life is the relationship you have with yourself. Because no matter what happens, you will always be with yourself. – Diane Von Furstenberg

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