I’m a 21-year-old uni student who likes long walks on the beach, red velvet cake and taking photographs…sounds like something I’d write on an online dating site as part of my profile. The truth is being single at 21 is not a bad thing. However being a single 20-something in 2013 Australia is not reinforced positively, at least not positively enough. Today, I realised that there are 8 days left till another season begins – Winter. It’s a pity because there’s just something about Autumn that makes me want to pile up different shades of red, orange and gold giant leaves and jump into it all carefree. One day I’ll be doing just that in Central Park, New York City. It’s on my bucket list.
We’ve all got bad habits we’d like to get rid of, but we’ve just become so accustomed to them that we just never change our ways. I’ll admit at the back of my mind there is this ideal notion of love. Every aspect of our lives is influenced by both our conscious mind, which we are constantly aware of, and the other being our unconscious mind, which remains ‘hidden’ from us. It contains our deepest desires and aspirations. It’s like a continuous wave of dreams that we keep close to our hearts. They way we experience the world through our perception, attitude and behaviour is a direct reflection of what our unconscious mind is telling us. In saying that, soon enough the season will change and along with that will come a change in the way I think. You only get out of life what you put in. Therefore, you should make every day count. Get up in the morning and look forward to something. I’ve always fallen in the trap of making up excuses for the things I’ve always wanted to try. By doing that not only do I think about that one thing I want even more, but it creates this unpleasant feeling inside me like I’ve failed myself. That’s why I took up canoeing recently. I love the water. I love adventure. What have I got to lose I told myself. “Just do it” (yolo mantra #1). You know inside what’s right for you, and in life you need to trust yourself enough to make the right decision. Otherwise, you’ll just end up like all those other people in the world who missed out on opportunities that could have opened doors for them because they simply gave up to soon. Don’t be afraid to fail. Be afraid not to try.
I see this change in season as way for me to change my mindset about love. A relationship is wonderful if it’s something you have, but it’s not necessary. Love is not measured by the number of relationships you have. I’m young, full of spirit and still ask my mum where my clothes are when I can’t find them in my closet. Therefore, I believe right now, at this very stage of my life, the world is my oyster. I’m free to pursue the things I’ve always wanted to do. I have the opportunity to create the person I want to be – a strong independent woman who lives life to the fullest.
The most important relationship in your life is the relationship you have with yourself. Because no matter what happens, you will always be with yourself. – Diane Von Furstenberg